Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Do NOT Rely on the Top 10 Signs of Infidelity


There are “top 10 lists of infidelity signs” all over the internet. But you should never rely solely on one of these lists to tell if you have a cheating mate.  You can be easily misled if you do.  

Over reliance on one of these so-called “signs of infidelity lists” can lull you into a false sense of security and put you in the awkward position of being the last to know.  Or it could also cause you to falsely accuse an innocent mate.  

Here’s why:

How You Can Be Deceived

Not seeing any of the “classic signs of infidelity” is no guarantee that you have a faithful mate.  Since these signs are all over the Internet, a cheater can easily find them.  So these are the first signs the cheater will cover up.  After all, how hard can it be to cover up 10 signs?

On the other hand, seeing one or more of the so-called "top 10 infidelity signs" may not necessarily mean your partner is having an affair.  There are a number of reasons totally unrelated to infidelity why your spouse or significant other might display one or more of these signs.   For example, some of the signs of infidelity on a typical “top 10 list” are also indicative of someone with a drug, alcohol, or gambling problem – or someone planning a surprise for their mate.

A Typical Top 10 List

Here are the signs of infidelity that usually appear on a typical “top 10 list”

1. Frequent, unaccounted for absences.
2. Suspicious phone behavior
3. Coming home late from work
4. Money missing from the bank account
5. Numerous lies or excuses
6. Increased concern about clothing or physical appearance
7. Unusual/ unexplained charges on the credit card bill
8. Complaints, arguments, picking fights over trivial things
9. Decrease in sex life
10. Lipstick, make-up, cologne/perfume on collar or other areas of clothing

The Problem with The Top 10 Signs

Knowing the top 10 signs of infidelity won’t help you catch a cheating mate.  When it comes to something as serious as infidelity, there are far more than 10 factors involved.   It’s impossible to determine whether or not mate is cheating on the basis of a mere 10 signs. 

What then, should you do if you suspect infidelity?

Focus on 21 Areas of Concern

To really make an accurate assessment, you should focus on 21 areas of concern.  There are 21 major categories of infidelity signs.  Each category consists of from 19 to 92 signs.  Some of the signs are obvious.  But the majority are subtle and easy to overlook. Since no two cheaters will display the exact same signs, knowing what to look for is the key.

To give you an idea of the type and number of infidelity signs in each category, I’ve listed five of the 21 major categories below: 

CONVERSATIONAL CLUES
What the cheater chooses or refuses to talk about can alert you that he or she is having an affair. They may start mentioning new people, places or things, while the people, places and things they used to talk about are no longer a part of their conversation. There are 70 conversational clues you can listen for that can give you valuable information about your partner's affair.

HOW HE OR SHE RELATES TO YOU
The cheater's involvement with someone else will cause him or her to treat you differently -- even on a subconscious level - in over 70 different ways.  This is a key area where if you know what to look for, you can spot telltale signs of infidelity that even a private investigator might overlook.

HIS OR HER BEHAVIOR AROUND THE OPPOSITE SEX
Studies show that a cheater is most likely to have an affair with someone they already know -- a neighbor, co-worker, business associate or family friend. If you know what to look for, there are 71 signs of infidelity that can help you figure out who the other woman or other man might be.  The way the cheater acts around their secret lover will usually give them away.   

DAY-TO-DAY BEHAVIOR
Most people have a basic routine they usually follow each day. A cheater will often display a dozen or more of the 92 deviations from their normal pattern of behavior.  These deviations are important telltale signs.

PHYSICAL APPEARANCE
A cheater will express a sudden desire to look more attractive.  He or she will begin to enhance or upgrade his or her appearance in some way.  So if your mate suddenly embarks on a drastic makeover, it's probably to impress their lover, not you. There are at least 76 different changes in wardrobe, grooming habits, and personal hygiene which indicate that he or she is having an affair.

(For a complete list of the 21 major categories, click here)

Don’t  Be Misled

Do not rely on the presence or absence of the top 10 signs of infidelity, or you could easily be deceived.  You don’t want to jump to conclusions and accuse an innocent mate. Nor do you want to set yourself up to be the last to know.  For two “real-life” accounts of just how deceptive these top 10 lists can be, see the article entitled How 2 Women Were Fooled by the Top 10 Signs of Infidelity.



NOTE:  The popular infidelity reference book Is He Cheating on You? 829 Telltale Signs goes into much greater detail about the 21 major categories of infidelity signs.

Saturday, January 07, 2017

Why You Can’t Afford to be the Last to Know if Your Mate is Cheating on You


If you think your spouse or significant other is cheating on you, this infidelity book can help.

In this day and age, if your spouse or significant other is cheating on you, you can’t afford to be the last one to know.  There are several reasons why.

Each day you delay finding out the truth, you run one or more of the risks below:

  • Your cheating spouse could drain your joint bank accounts to finance their extramarital affair

  • Your cheating spouse could max out your joint credit cards buying gifts for his or her secret lover and stick you with the bills.

  • Your cheating husband or boyfriend could get his mistress pregnant, and end up having to pay child support.

  • Your cheating wife or girlfriend could become pregnant by another man and attempt to pass the child off as yours.

  • Your cheating mate could put your health at risk by exposing you to HIV/AIDS or some other sexually transmitted disease, if he or she is having unprotected sex.

  • Your cheating spouse or significant other could leave you and move in with his or her lover before you even realize what’s been going on. 

  • Your cheating husband or wife could surprise you with divorce papers that they’ve had secretly prepared behind your back. 

Being the last to know not only leaves you open to embarrassment, finding out too late could also cost you your marriage/relationship, your money, or your health.


The sooner you spot the early warning signs of infidelity or the signs of an affair in progress, the better your chances are of nipping your mate’s affair in the bud, before it reaches the point of no return. 

And the better your chances are of minimizing much of the legal, financial, and emotional damage infidelity can cause.

Your future and the future of your marriage or relationship could very well depend on your ability to spot the signs of infidelity in time.

Are you starting to realize see why you can’t afford to be the last one to know if your spouse or significant other is cheating on you?

This is where a good infidelity reference book can help.   Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs  makes it easy to spot the telltale signs of an affair before it's too late. This comprehensive guide to the warning signs of infidelity documents hundreds of cheating signs –  all of which you can easily find using only your eyes and ears, your  personal knowledge of your mate and the information in this book. No special skills or equipment are needed. Despite the title, most of the signs in the book apply to both cheating women and cheating men.

Order your personal copy today.

Soft cover version of   Is He Cheating on You? 829 Telltale Signs from Amazon ($29.95)

E-book version Is He Cheating on You? 829 Telltale Signs from Booklocker.com ($37)
NOTE: The e-book version also contains a special bonus section with questionnaires, an “affair recovery” guide, and  brief “Is SHE Cheating?” section for men.)  

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Sunday, January 01, 2017

This New Year's Day Sign of Infidelity Will Expose Your Cheating Mate


On New Year’s Day, there’s one sign of infidelity that can quickly and easily expose your cheating mate.  If you think your spouse or significant other has a secret lover, take a look at his or her cell phone to find out the first person they had contact with today.  Look for any calls, text messages, e-mails or voice mail messages received right around midnight on New Year’s Eve or very early on New Year’s Day. If the first person the cheater made contact with during this critical time period was not a family member, it’s likely to be the person  he or she is cheating with – especially if it’s a member of the opposite sex. 

Most cheaters can’t resist the urge to touch base with their affair partner to wish them a Happy New Year.  They’ll usually do this shortly before or after midnight on New Year’s Eve, or at the first available opportunity on New Year’s Day.  Act quickly before they delete the call or text, because this highly incriminating telltale sign will expose the cheater’s affair. 

Consider the following real life story which drives home this point.

Early on New Year’s Day while her husband Harold was still asleep, Judith checked his cell phone and found that he’d called one of his female co-workers at 11:53 p.m. the previous night. This was the same woman Judith had questioned Harold before about before,  was told that the numerous calls  text messages between them were related to the business project they were working on. Obviously Harold couldn’t use this excuse to explain his phone call to this woman on New Year’s Eve.

If you’re unable to check the cheater’s cell phone on New Year’s Day, try checking his or her cell phone bill.  If you don’t recognize the number, use a reverse phone search service like  www.CheatingSpousePhoneSearch.com to find out who the number belongs to.  This reliable online service is affordable and discreet.


But keep in mind that if you find evidence of infidelity on New Year’s Day, you still need may additional proof.  A good infidelity reference book can help.  Is He Cheating on You – 829 Telltale Signs documents practically every known sign of infidelity, and applies to both cheating women and cheating menThe  e-book version can be ordered from Booklocker.com.  The soft cover version is available from Amazon.

Saturday, December 31, 2016

How to Catch Your Cheating Mate on New Year's Eve


New Year’s Eve gives you a rare opportunity to catch your cheating mate - an opportunity you won’t find at any other time of the year. The cheater’s behavior on New Year’s Eve will usually give him (or her) away. Be observant and pay close attention to whatever the cheater says or does, and you’ll probably catch him or her in the act.

Their Secret Lover Could Be Someone You Know
According to an infidelity study a few years ago, 75% of people having affairs are cheating with workmates or friends.  So the likelihood is high that your spouse or significant other’s secret lover is probably someone you know.  It could be a neighbor, a mutual acquaintance, a co-worker or family friend. If it’s someone from your social circle, it’s possible the three of you could end up at the same New Year’s Eve party this year. If so, you’ve got a golden opportunity to check things out.

Body Language or Behavior Will Give Them Away
If there’s anything going on between your mate and someone else at the party, their body language and behavior will give them away. Keep your eyes and ears open for telltale signs.  It could be something as subtle as a look, touch, wink, caress, or calling each other a pet name.  Or it may be as brazen as kissing, making out, or sneaking off for a quickie, if they think the coast is clear.  If your spouse or significant other disappears for an extended period of time, discreetly try to find out where he or she has gone. 

Watch Them Closely on New Year’s Eve
Regardless of whether they're out partying, or celebrating an intimate New Year’s Eve at home, most cheaters can’t resist the urge to contact their secret lover around midnight to wish them a Happy New Year.  Watch him or her closely during this critical period of time, and you'll probably catch the cheater in the act.  Stay alert because cheaters can be quite resourceful in concocting excuses to get away.  Any unexplained absences, whispered conversations, or errands that must be run before or after midnight should be cause for alarm. Cheaters have used  all kinds of excuses to get away long enough to make a phone call, send a  text message, or make a quick visit if their lover lives nearby.

Proceed with Caution and Get Solid Proof
Even if your spouse or significant other behaves suspiciously on New Year’s Eve, you still may need additional proof. Don't confront him or her unless you have a solid case.  Otherwise, the cheater will lie, deny, or play mind games with you to explain away whatever he or she said or did. 

Bear in mind that signs of infidelity seldom appear in isolation.  If he or she is really cheating on you, there will be lots of corroborating signs.  Since many of them are subtle, knowing what to look for is the key.

This is where a good infidelity reference book can help. You might want to check out Is He Cheating on You? 829 Telltale Signs.  Talk show hosts have called this book “cheater’s worst nightmare” because it documents practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook. Despite the title, most of the signs in the book apply to both cheating women and men. To order your personal copy of the soft cover version of  Is He Cheating on You? 829 Telltale Signs from Amazon.com ($29.95), clickhere.  To order the e-book version with the special bonus section and “Affair Recovery Guide” from Booklocker.com ($37), click here.

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6 After-Christmas Signs of Infidelity That Can Expose a Cheating Mate


The 6 signs of infidelity below typically appear shortly after Christmas, and can expose a cheating mate or confirm the existence of a suspected affair.

Knowing what to look for is the keyThe cheater will usually be exposed by a Christmas gift he or she has given or received. Be alert for one or more of the 6 “after-Christmas” infidelity signs below:

1.  The disappearing gift.  You accidentally discover a hidden gift before Christmas that you thought was for you.  However Christmas has come and gone, the gift has disappeared from its hiding place, but it wasn’t given to you.  Where is the gift now? If no one else in the family received it, who was it given to? 

NOTE:  To read a brief account of how one wife found out her husband's infidelity because of a disappearing Christmas gift, see Cheating Husband Exposed by Christmas Gift to Wife’s Best Friend at www.RealLifeInfidelity.com   

2.  Receipts for the purchase of two identical gifts. You find a receipt or credit card  bill indicating that two of the exact same gifts were bought.  You received one, but who did your mate give the other gift to?
3.  A thank you note, e-mail, text message or voice mail to your mate from someone of the opposite sex for a Christmas gift you know nothing about. If it was just an innocent gift, your spouse or significant other would have mentioned that he or she bought it, or even asked you to help them pick it out. The fact that it was done behind your back suggests that it was something you weren’t supposed to know about. Ask yourself (and your mate) Why?
4.  Gifts of an overly personal nature given to your spouse or significant other by a business acquaintance or casual friend of the opposite sex. Things like scarves or ties are neutral Christmas gifts. But Christmas gifts like jewelry, lingerie, articles of clothing, or similar personal items from members of the opposite sex should raise an alarm.

5.  Expensive gift items that suddenly appear after Christmas, which your mate claims to have bought for himself/herself. Ask your mate a few questions the suspicious newly acquired gift.  When did they buy it? Why haven’t they mentioned it, or worn it before now? Can he or he show you the sales receipt for the suspicious gift?

6.  Credit card statements that arrive after Christmas showing charges for gift items you know nothing about and didn’t personally receive. If you weren’t the one who charged a watch from Sak’s Fifth Avenue, or $300 worth of Victoria’s Secret lingerie to your joint credit card,  who did? And if you weren’t the person who received the gift that was charged, who was it given to?

A Word of Caution about Telltale Signs of Infidelity

These are just a few of the signs of infidelity an observant spouse or significant other can find shortly after Christmastime.  But you should never accuse your mate of cheating solely on the basis of one of the 6 signs above.  Signs of infidelity rarely appear in isolation.  If your spouse or significant other is really cheating, you’ll find dozens of other corroborating signs. Since most of the signs are subtle and easy to overlook, knowing what to look for is the key. So be sure you’re on solid ground before you confront your mate. Things are not always what they appear to be.


NOTE: The 6 “after-Christmas” telltale signs above are taken from the 3 chapters on Gifts, Financial Affairs, and Physical Evidence 

If You Need Additional Proof

If you need additional proof that your spouse or significant other is cheating, you might want to order a reliable infidelity reference book like  Is He Cheating on You? 829 Telltale Signs. It covers practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook. Despite the title, most of the signs in the book apply to both cheating women and cheating men. To order the soft cover version of Is He Cheating on You? 829 Telltale Signs. from Amazon.com ($29.95),click here.  To order the e-book version with the bonus section and “Affair Recovery Guide” from Booklocker.com ($37),click here

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To receive monthly infidelity-related information including tips, little-known facts, and practical advice from infidelity expert Ruth Houston, on dealing with all aspects of infidelity, send an e-mail to InfidelityAtoZ@gmail.com  .