When You Marry a Potential Cheater Like Jenny Sanford Did

In her book , Staying True, Jenny Sanford, tells how Mark Sanford insisted on removing the fidelity clause from their marriage vows.

By doing so, Sanford signaled his intent early on, and labeled himself a potential cheater.

Despite her misgivings, Jenny Sanford married him anyway

If, like Jenny Sanford, you knowingly marry (or date) a potential cheater, there are precautions you should take to decrease the likelihood that he will actually have an affair.

Free Infidelity Report Tells How to Handle a Potential Cheater

The free infidelity report entitled, “How to Deal with a Potential Cheater,” lists several successful strategies you can use to avoid a lot of hurt, humiliation and heartbreak later on, if you’re married to a man who’s likely to cheat on you.

To request a free copy of this infidelity report by infidelity expert Ruth Houston, e-mail InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with the words "Potential Cheater Report-blg" in the subject line.

Not Sure if He’s a Potential Cheater?

Not all potential cheaters signal their intent like Mark Sanford did.

Most men who are prone to infidelity don’t reveal themselves right away.

But there is a way you can tell.

If you’re not sure whether or not you’re dating or married to a man who is a potential cheater, take the 7-question Potential Cheater’s Quiz (also known as the Will He Cheat Quiz) posted on the National Infidelity Examiner page at Examiner.com, where you will find over 100 other articles containing cutting edge infidelity information and practical infidelity advice.

The short, but highly accurate 7-question quiz will tell you whether or not you’re involved with a man who is prone to infidelity.

By looking at certain things about your husband or boyfriend - his life experiences, family history, character flaws or personality traits, your answers to the Potential Cheater’s Quiz will tell you if your spouse or significant other is a man who is likely to cheat on his mate.

Click here to go directly to the Will He Cheat Quiz or Potential Cheater’s Quiz.

Or you can request a free copy of the Potential Cheater’s Quiz by sending an e-mail to InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with “Cheater’s Quiz –blg” in the subject line.

If you already know he's a potential cheater, request the free infidelity report How to Deal with a Potential Cheater, so you'll know what to do. E-mail InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with Potential Cheater Report-blg in the subject line.

Cutting Edge Infidelity Information and Practical Infidelity Advice

For more information about infidelity, cheating mates, and extramarital affairs from an infidelity expert, visit my National Infidelity Examiner pages at Examiner.com, where new articles with cutting edge infidelity advice are posted every week.

You will find over 100 articles with containing cutting edge infidelity information, and the latest infidelity advice, including the articles listed below.

Will He Leave You for Her?

What You Need to Know About Your Husband’s Mistress and Why

Will He Cheat on You? – a 7-Question Quiz (Potential Cheater’s Quiz)

Will You Be the Next Wife or Girlfriend to Become a Victim of Infidelity? - a Quiz

Happy Husbands Cheat, Too

Why the Wife is Still the Last to Know

3 Things a Wife Stands to Lose by Being the Last to Know

Why Most Cheaters Don’t Get Caught

Don't Be Misled by the Top 10 Signs of Infidelity

What Should I Do If I Think He or She is Cheating on Me?

What NOT to Do If He’s Cheating on You

Why Women Stay with Men Who Cheat

What are the Major Obstacles to Taking a Cheater Back?

13 Things Everyone Should Know about Signs of Infidelity

Is He Cheating? – Is She Cheating? 21 Ways You Can Tell (free tip sheet)

Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (softcover book)

Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (e-book version with Affair Recovery information)

When Should You Hire a Private Investigator to Check Out a Cheating Mate

The Best Investment You Can Make in Your Relationship for 2010

Free Infidelity Tip Sheets and Special Reports

Infidelity Resources to Help You Catch a Cheating Mate


Bookmark the National Infidelity Examiner page (http://www.nationalinfidelityexaminerpage.com/ ) and check back often, because new articles are posted every week.

Could Your Cheating Husband or Boyfriend be a Sex Addict, Too?

Tiger Woods is nearing the end of his treatment for sex addiction at the Pine Grove facility in Hattiesburg, Mississippi.

If you’re dealing with a cheating husband or boyfriend, you may be wondering if he could be a sex addict too.

I’ve received so many questions from you about sex addicts and sex addiction that I’ve compiled a list of behaviors common to sex addicts which you can check and compare with the behavior and characteristics of your spouse or significant other.

Especially if he's a serial cheater.

Since the list is a little lengthy for this blog, I ‘ve posted it on my National Infidelity Examiner page under the title Does Tiger Woods Fit The Profile of a Sex Addict? Check This List if You Really Want to Know.

The updated list of 25 behaviors and characteristics common to sex addicts is based on information gathered from several medical sites.

Although a qualified medical professional is the only one who can make an accurate diagnosis about such things, you can take a look at the list of common behaviors and make an educated guess.

Medical Professionals Disagree about Sex Addiction

Only a qualified medical professional can make an accurate diagnosis.

But even in medical circles sex addiction is a controversial topic on which even medical professionals don’t all agree.

Many don’t even acknowledge sex addiction as a “legitimate” addiction.

However a growing number of medical professionals believe that compulsive sexual behavior ( sex addiction) is a very real disorder that affect an estimated 16 million Americans of both sexes, from high profile cheaters like Tiger Woods, Steve Phillips, and David Duchovny, to the man next door.


Articles on the Tiger Woods Infidelity Scandal

For articles on the Tiger Woods sex scandal from an infidelity expert’s point of view, see

Does Tiger Woods Fit The Profile of a Sex Addict? Check This List if You Really Want to Know

What Cheating Husbands Can Learn from the Tiger Woods Infidelity Scandal

6 Things Tiger Woods Did that Are Common to Most Cheating Men

14 Reasons Why Tiger Woods and Other Rich and Famous Men Cheat

Did Tiger Woods REALLY Have Sex with Other Men?

Tiger Woods’ Infidelity Due to Sex Addiction Plus Drugs that Boosted His Sex Drive

New Details about Tiger Woods Secret Love Life Reveal He May Be Addicted to Sex

The Tiger Woods Sex Scandal from an Infidelity Expert’s Point of View


These, and other infidelity articles can be found on the National Infidelity Examiner pages at Examiner.com at http://www.examiner.com/x-17416-Infidelity-Examiner or at http://www.nationalinfidelityexaminerpage.com/

All About Getting Revenge on a Cheating Mate

Have you ever wanted to get revenge on a cheating mate?

Most infidelity victims feel this way.

It’s common for a person who has been cheated on to feel an overwhelming desire to seek revenge.

5 Articles on Revenge

There are now 5 articles about getting revenge on a cheating mate on the National Infidelity Examiner page at Examiner.com. Click here to read them all, or use the individual links for each article at the end of this post.

The Need to Even the Score

The hurt and anger you feel at being betrayed by someone you love is usually accompanied by a strong urge to do something to get even with the person who caused you so much heartbreak, humiliation and pain.

Many people, especially women, resort to revenge cheating or retaliatory affairs as a way to even the score, or punish their cheating mate.

The new revenge article I just posted at Examiner.com, entitled Why Revenge Cheating and Retaliatory Affairs Don’t Work When Trying to Get Even With a Cheating Mate, explains how revenge cheating or retaliatory affairs can backfire.

More Articles About Revenge on a Cheating Mate

Other revenge articles posted on the National Infidelity Examiner page discuss why the urge to get revenge is to strong, creative ways some infidelity victims get revenge, forms of revenge to avoid, and how one woman accidentally discovered the best way of all to get revenge on her cheating mate.

The complete list is below:

Why Revenge Cheating and Retaliatory Affairs Don’t work When Trying to Get Even With a Cheating Mate

3 Types of Revenge Cheating or Retaliatory Affairs

How Betrayed Wives and Other Infidelity Victims Get Revenge on Their Cheating Mates

More Women are Resorting to Violent Acts of Revenge

William Taylor’s I Cheated Sign and Other Forms of Revenge

2 Free Tip Sheets

There are also 2 free tip sheets below, which you can request by e-mail from the list of free infidelity tip sheets and special reports at this link.

How to Legally and Financially Get Revenge on a Cheating Mate (free tip sheet)

How Wives with Cheating Husband Can Gain the Upper Hand (free tip sheet)

For the latest information and advice on infidelity, cheating mates and extramarital affairs, visit the National Infidelity Examiner page at Examiner.com

Tiger Woods a Sex Addict? - Judge for Yourself

Sources have reported that Tiger Woods may be the victim of dual addictions -- sex addiction plus an addiction to prescription drugs Vicodin and Ambien, which as a side effect, boost the male sex drive.

If true, this puts Tiger Woods behavior in an entirely different light.

He may actually have medical reasons for his multiple mistresses and his serial infidelity.

Is Tiger REALLY a Sex Addict?

I’ve received an avalanche of questions from those of you who must have also seen these reports and want to know whether it’s true that Tiger Woods is addicted to sex.

Many of you, no doubt, recall what I’ve I said about serial cheaters often using sex addiction as an excuse.

However, based on what I’ve been able to find out about sex addiction, this does not appear to be the case with Tiger Woods. From what I’ve read in the media about this whole Tiger Woods infidelity scandal, it appears that Tiger may be a true sex addict.

Check the List and Decide for Yourself

However, to help answer your questions, and gain a better understanding of sex addiction, I checked several medical sources and a list of characteristics and behaviors common to sex addicts.

Since the list is a bit long for a blog post I’ve included the list in an article posted on my National Infidelity Examiner page entitled Is Tiger Woods a Sex Addict? Judge for Yourself. You can read it here.

While it’s true that only a qualified medical professional can make an accurate diagnosis, sex addiction is a controversial topic on which many medical professionals don’t agree.

That’s why I invite you to check the list and decide for yourself. In the comment section below the article, let me know what you think.

To read the “Sex Addict” list, click here, or follow the link below.

http://www.examiner.com/examiner/x-17416-Infidelity-Examiner~y2009m12d21-Is-Tiger-Woods-a-sex-addict--Judge-for-yourself


Articles about Tiger Woods and Sex Addiction

Is Tiger Woods a Sex Addict? Judge for yourself

Tiger Woods Infidelity Due to Sex Addiction Plus Drugs that Boosted His Sex Drive

New Details about Tiger Woods Secret Love Life Reveal He May Be Addicted to Sex


Other articles about the Tiger Woods Sex scandal from an infidelity expert’s point of view:

6 Things Tiger Woods Did that Are Common to Most Cheating Men

14 Reasons Why Tiger Woods and Other Rich and Famous Men Cheat

How Good Men End Up Cheating on Their Mates

Free Tip Sheet Helps Women Like Elin Nordegren Decide Whether or Not to Stay with a Cheating Mate

Was Tiger Woods’ Car Accident Caused by Infidelity?

An Infidelity Expert’s Advice to Tiger Woods Wife

What Tiger Woods’ Wife Should Do if the Infidelity Rumors Are True

More Infidelity Advice from an Expert, for Tiger Wood’s Wife Now That the Rumors are True

For the latest infidelity articles and infidelity advice, visit my National Infidelity Examiner page at Examiner.com

Shocking Statistics Prove Office Christmas Parties Lead to Workplace Affairs

Office Christmas parties have become breeding grounds for workplace affairs.

Every year as part of my annual Christmas Infidelity Awareness Campaign I strongly advise everyone to accompany their spouse or significant other to the annual Christmas party at their job. Especially if you suspect, or want to prevent a workplace affair.

Look at the statistics below and you’ll see why:

• In a survey conducted by Men's Health magazine, 44% of the males said they'd had an affair with a co-worker at a holiday office party at least once in their life.

• In a survey by Trojan Condoms, 49% of the employees expressed their willingness to “go all the way” with a fellow employee at the Christmas party if the opportunity presented itself.

• Almost 33% of those in the Trojan survey said they’d previously had sex with a colleague during or after an office Christmas party.

• 64% of the office workers in the OfficeSMART survey said they personally knew of affairs that started at their office Christmas party.

• 1 out of 5 women in the WorldWIT survey became romantically involved with a colleague at an office party. 33% of these women admitted to having an affair following their office party fling, and a year or more later, 13% of them were still romantically involved.

• A London survey found that 1 in 10 respondents started a relationship at the company Christmas party. 25% of those questioned said that’s how they met their future spouse.

Your presence at your spouse or significant other’s office Christmas party can safeguard your relationship and act as a deterrent to workplace affairs. See the article entitled Attend Your Mate’s Office Christmas Party to Discourage Workplace Affairs .

Go, If You Suspect Workplace Infidelity

You should also go to the office Christmas party with your spouse or significant other, if you suspect a workplace affair. Christmas office parties have a way of revealing workplace affairs. See the article entitled Office Christmas Parties Can Reveal Workplace Affairs.

If your spouse or significant other is romantically involved with someone on their job, their behavior around each other, or body language will give them away. Of course, knowing what to look for is the key.

So before you go, make sure you get a free copy of the tip sheet entitled What to Look For at the Office Christmas Party or Similar Company Event if You Suspect a Workplace Affair. E-mail InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with the words " What to Look - b" for in the subject line.

As part of my annual Christmas Infidelity Awareness Campaign, I’ve posted a number of helpful articles on my National Infidelity Examiner page at Examiner.com, http://www.examiner.com/x-17416-Infidelity-Examiner including the articles below.

Check them out if you’ve got a cheater, or suspected cheater on your hand, so you’ll know what to do. There are plenty of other ways to catch a cheater at Christmastime. See the article entitled Attend Your Mate’s Office Christmas Party to Discourage Workplace Affairs or any of the other articles below.

Infidelity and Office Christmas Parties – The Shocking Truth

Attend Your Mate’s Office Christmas Party to Discourage Workplace Affairs

Office Christmas Parties Can Reveal Workplace Affairs

Christmas is the Ideal Time to Catch a Cheating Mate

8 Gift-related Signs of Infidelity to Be Alert for at Christmastime

13 Things Everyone Should Know About Signs of Infidelity

Is He Cheating? Is She Cheating? – 21 Ways You Can Tell (free tip sheet)

Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (soft cover book)

Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (e-book version with Affair Recovery Guide)

Infidelity Resources to Help You Catch a Cheating Mate

Free Infidelity Tip Sheets and Special Reports


For the latest infidelity articles and infidelity advice, visit my National Infidelity Examiner page at Examiner.com

Highlights of My Infidelity Advice to Tiger Woods Wife

A few days ago I wrote an article entitled What Tiger Woods’ Wife Should Do if the Infidelity Rumors Are True. This article contained 17 suggestions as to what Elin Nordegren Woods should do if the infidelity rumors about Tiger turned out to be true.

This was a follow-up article to my previous article entitled An Infidelity Expert’s Advice to Tiger Woods Wife, which contained 18 suggestions, including coping strategies for dealing with suspected infidelity, or rumors of infidelity, and detailed information on how to go about uncovering the truth.

In view of the recent reports that Tiger Woods was involved with 3 different women – Rachel Uchitel, Jaimee Grubbs, and Kalika Moquin – I’m posting highlights from those 2 articles which appear on my National Infidelity Examiner page at Examiner.com

Women in Elin Nordegren Woods’ Situation Can Benefit from this Advice

Some of the suggestions were specific to Tiger Woods’ wife. But if you find yourself in a similar situation, you too, can benefit from this advice.

Below are 8 key points from my infidelity advice to Elin Nordegren Woods. The original articles can be found on my National Infidelity Examiner page at Examiner.com

Infidelity Advice for Tiger Woods’ Wife – 8 Key Points

1. Experts all agree that you should examine all the facts and have several non-confrontational discussions with the cheater about the cheating, so you can make an intelligent decision about what to do. Delay making a final decision about how to handle the matter until you are in possession of all the facts. See the free tip sheet entitled Go or Stay – How to Decide Whether to Give a Cheater a Second Chance.


2. Don’t speculate. Investigate. Separate rumor from fact. Since you are not bound by the same financial constraints as the average wife who finds out her husband is having an affair, hire a reputable private investigator who specializes in infidelity investigations to check out names, dates, places, incidents, and verify the facts. See the article entitled When Should You Hire a Private Investigator to Check Out a Cheating Mate?

3. Get a grip on your emotions. If you can’t discuss the situation without losing your temper, have a neutral third party present when discussing the affair. (counselor, religious leader, or trusted family friend.) You’ve already seen how quickly the situation can get out of control.

4. Try to make an accurate assessment of the situation. Determine whether or not the affairs pose a serious threat to your marriage. See the article entitled Will He Leave You for Her?

5. Don’t waste any time or energy, or lower your dignity by attempting to confront the alleged other women. ( Rachel Uchitel, Jaimee Grubbs, Kalika Moquin) This is about you and Tiger -- not about them. See the article entitled What NOT to Do If He’s Cheating on You and the free tip sheet entitled 5 Things You Shouldn’t Do If He’s Cheating on You

6. If your decision is to save your marriage, engage the services of a qualified marriage and family counselor with extensive experience in handling issues of infidelity. Not every marriage counselor is trained or experienced in handling extramarital affairs. For a referral, call the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT) or visit their website. See the article entitled Why Women Stay with Men Who Cheat.

7. Get tested for HIV/AIDS even if Tiger insists that he never had unprotected sex. And insist that Tiger be tested too. Your health and maybe even your life could be at stake (One of his alleged mistresses supposedly has a history of sleeping with married men.)

8. Don’t blame yourself. See the article entitled Are Wives to Blame When Their Husbands Cheat? Realize that the affair is not necessarily a negative reflection on you, or an indication of problems in your marriage. Infidelity studies have found that happy husbands cheat too, and that even good marriages are not immune to infidelity. See the articles entitled Happy Husbands Cheat, Too and Top 10 Reasons Why Men and Women Cheat

For the latest information and advice on infidelity, cheating spouses, and extramarital affairs, visit my National Infidelity Examiner page at Examiner.com

15 Reasons a Wife Should Give Thanks if She Has a Faithful Mate

This Thanksgiving, any wife with a faithful husband has a lot to be thankful for.

Infidelity statistics indicate that 3 out of every 4 men are cheating on their mates.

Faithful husbands are few and far between.
See the article entitled Be Thankful This Thanksgiving if You Have a Faithful Mate.

If you’re fortunate enough to be the 1 wife out of every 4 whose husband isn’t having an affair, there are 15 things you should be thankful for.

1. Be thankful that your marriage and family are still intact.

2. Be thankful you that don’t have to fight over which parent your children will spend Thanksgiving with this year.

3. Be thankful your husband hasn't packed his bags and moved in with his mistress.

4. Be thankful your husband hasn’t surprised you with divorce papers out of the blue.

5. Be thankful you don’t have to go through a custody battle over your children.

6. Be thankful you don’t have to deal with the mental and emotional trauma that infidelity brings.

7. Be thankful you don’t have to sit home alone at night wondering where your husband is, or who he’s with.

8. Be thankful you haven’t contracted a sexually transmitted disease because your husband had unprotected sex with someone else.

9. Be thankful your husband hasn't emptied your joint bank account or used family funds to finance his extramarital affair.

10. Be thankful you don’t have to agonize over the difficult decision of whether or not to stay with a cheating mate.

11. Be thankful you don’t have to shell out money to a divorce attorney to help you bring your marriage to an end.

12. Be thankful you don’t have to persuade your husband that the two of you need to see a marriage counselor to get your marriage back on track.

13. Be thankful you’re not one of those 26 million unsuspecting wives who didn’t know her husband was having an affair.

14. Be thankful you’re not an object of pity among your family and friends because you were the last to know.

15. Be thankful the time and energy you’ve invested in your marriage have not been in vain.

Not Sure if Your Husband is One of the Faithful Few?

If you’re not quite sure whether your husband is among the cheaters, or the faithful few, then be thankful you found this article. Here a way for you to find out. Request a free copy of the special report entitled Is He Cheating? Is She Cheating? - 21 Ways You Can Tell, by e-mailing InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with “21 ways -tkb" in the subject line.

You’ll be thankful you did.


For more information about infidelity, cheating husbands or extramarital affairs, see the following articles, tip sheets and special reports:

Be Thankful This Thanksgiving if You Have a Faithful Mate

Is He Cheating? Is She Cheating? - 21 Ways You Can Tell (free infidelity report)

What Should I Do If I Think He or She is Cheating on Me?

3 Things a Wife Stands to Lost by Being the Last to Know

How Do You Catch a Cheating Husband?

Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (book)

Why the wife is still the last to know

How Wives with Cheating Husbands Can Gain the Upper Hand (free tip sheet)

13 Things Everyone Should Know About Signs of Infidelity

Free Infidelity Tip Sheets and Special Reports

Infidelity Resources to Help You catch a Cheating Mate

For the latest infidelity articles and infidelity advice, visit my National Infidelity Examiner page at Examiner.com

Special Announcement

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Is He Cheating on You exposes all types of infidelity, including emotional infidelity, cyber, online or internet infidelity, workplace infidelity, same sex infidelity, financial infidelity and more.

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How to Catch a Cheating Mate

Many people mistakenly believe they need to hire a private investigator or buy expensive surveillance equipment to catch a cheating spouse or significant other. If you’re familiar with the signs of infidelity, all you really need are your own eyes and ears and your personal knowledge of your mate. Knowing what to look for is the key.

Stay Alert

If you suspect your mate of infidelity, you’ll need to be very observant. Pay close attention to everything he or she says or does from now on. Short of a confession – which is unlikely, or an accidental discovery, this is the only way you will find out the truth. The majority of telltale signs are subtle, but once you know what to look for, most of them are easy to spot.

NOTE: Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs covers practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook. Most of the signs in the book are universal, and apply to cheating woman and cheating men.

During this information-gathering period, don’t let a single day pass without searching for signs of infidelity. The signs that are evident one day may be undetectable the next. Be alert to for anything unusual, or any departures from your partner’s norm.

Write Down Everything You Find

Document everything! Keep accurate records of whatever you find -- names, dates, times, locations, suspicious incidents, phone calls, absences, meetings, excuses or alibis given, etc. Don’t rely on your memory. Record your findings in a journal and keep it safely under lock and key. Once you have everything down on paper, you can analyze what you’ve found for patterns of behavior.

Does he go to the store for a beer at 8:30 every Thursday night? Does he walk the dog for an extra hour on the first and third Sunday of each month? Does she put on cologne to go work out at the gym? Does she wear sexy lingerie only on days she calls home to say she has to work late? Patterns like these will only be evident if you document everything you find.

Exercise Caution and Be Discreet

Make photocopies or take photos of phone numbers, e-mails, letters, receipts and any other incriminating evidence you find. Then put things back exactly as they were. Keep your “evidence journal” in a safe place. You’ll need the proof you’ve found when you sit down and inform your mate that you know about the affair.

Be discreet while conducting your investigation. Keep your eyes and ears open, and your mouth shut. Be careful not to tip your hand. If your spouse or significant other figures out what you’re up to, they’ll start hiding evidence, or covering up their tracks.

Don’t Ask, Because He Won’t Tell

You may be tempted to question your mate about some of the evidence you’ve found. My advice to you is - DON’T. Now is not the time. Say nothing until you have all the facts at hand. Above all, DO NOT ASK IF HE OR SHE IS CHEATING. They will only tell you a lie. It usually takes solid evidence to get a cheating mate to confess to having an affair. Even then, many cheaters, still continue to lie.

Restrain Yourself

It will be difficult to restrain yourself as you document your findings and the evidence begins to mount. You’ll be tempted to drop a few hints, just to let your mate know that you’re not a fool. Keep your lips zipped until you have all the facts. There’s nothing to be gained by dropping hints or letting your mate know what you suspect. Don’t lose the advantage you have by revealing your knowledge too soon.

Build a Strong Case for the Confrontation

Once you have solid evidence that your mate is cheating on you, confront him or her with the evidence you’ve gathered and tell them you know about the affair. If your evidence is solid, and your case is strong, he or she can’t deny the truth. Especially if you’ve got everything down in black and white. That’s why it’s important for you to keep accurate notes.

Calmly discuss the affair with your mate. Ask all your unanswered questions at this time. Listen to what he or she has to say. Then use this information to help you formulate an appropriate plan of action to take.

A WORD OF CAUTION: Do not jeopardize your safety to search for telltale signs. If your mate is hot-tempered, aggressive, or has a history of violent behavior, leave the detective work to a pro. And have a trained professional, or other third party present when you confront you mate about the affair. Do not put yourself or your children at risk.

This information on how to catch a cheating mate is adapted from Chapter 4 of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs. This infidelity reference book documents practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook. Most of the signs apply to cheating women, as well as cheating men.

For your convenience, the signs of infidelity in "Is He Cheating on You?" are grouped into 21 major categories so you can easily find the signs that apply to your marriage or your mate.

The soft cover version of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs is available from http://www.ishecheatingonyoubook.com/ or from Amazon.com, or 1-800-431-1579.

The e-book version of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs is available from Booklocker.com. and comes with a special section for men entitled Is SHE Cheating? plus a bonus section with Affair Recovery information. Order for immediate download from http://www.booklocker.com/books/1755.html

For more information about either version of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs, click here or visit http://ishecheatingonyou.blogspot.com/

Will He Leave You for the Other Woman?

ATTENTION
To read my comments on Jenny Sanford’s interview in the September 2009 issue of Vogue magazine about her husband’s affair, click here

or visit my page at Examiner.com
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Will He Leave You for the Other Woman?

You found out your husband or boyfriend is cheating on you.

The one question you keep asking yourself over and over is;

“Will he leave me for her?”

There is a way to tell, but the answer depends on several things, including:

● how close he and his mistress have become

● what kind of person she is

● what stage the affair is in

● what he stands to gain or lose.

There are certain signs of infidelity that can tell you whether his affair with the Other Woman is a serious threat to your marriage or relationship, or if it’s just a fling.

The 5 signs below are indications indicate that your husband or boyfriend is likely to leave you for the woman he’s been seeing behind your back.

1. He has a heavy financial investment in her, or in the affair.

If you find financially-related signs of infidelity which indicate that he’s paying her rent, mortgage, car note, utilities, credit card or other major bills; or find signs that he’s regularly depositing money into her bank account, the situation does not look good. Especially if the two of you are married. If he’s willing to use family funds to finance his affair, or keep his mistress happy, this is a very bad sign.

2. He begins to distance himself from you, your family, and mutual friends.

Distancing himself from you can manifest itself in many ways. He may no longer want to go places or do things with you – even things the two of you once enjoyed doing together. He may make excuses, or flat out refuse to attend family gatherings with you, or socialize with mutual friends. These are just a few of the signs that he’s gradually removing himself from your world, and becoming more firmly entrenched in hers.

3. He spends holidays, weekends, or takes regular vacations with her.

The frequency and duration of the time he spends with his mistress can be a big indication that he’s planning to leave you for her. Holidays, weekends, and vacation time are usually reserved for family. If he’s spending couple time, or family time with her, that’s a sure sign that their relationship is more than just a fling.

4. He and his mistress share a common passion.

If he and his mistress have many interests in common, or share a common passion – golf, foreign films, horseback riding, photography, stamp or coin collecting, or some other hobby or pastime that is near and dear to his heart -- the likelihood is very high that he will leave you for her. If he’s doing all the fun things in his life with her, and all the boring, day-to-day things with you, that only increases his desire to be with her.

5. He has bonded emotionally with her.

Has he stopped sharing his inner thoughts with you? Does he no longer discuss his aspirations or the goals he wants to achieve? Do you find out about important things in his life after the fact? If he’s now confiding in his mistress rather than you, the situation is very grave indeed. If she is the first person he calls to talk to when something significant happens to him -- good or bad, he has bonded emotionally with her, and you have ceased to be a priority in his life. If he’s sharing his hopes, dreams, fears, and future plans with her, and constantly turning to her for emotional support, it’s just a matter of time before he leaves you for her.

What if You Don’t Find Any Signs

If you don’t see any of these or similar signs, then either his affair is still in the early stages, or
it’s not a threat to your marriage or relationship – yet.

Either way, you need to take positive action because the longer the affair continues, the greater the likelihood that it will become serious as time goes on. The bonds he shares with his mistress will probably strengthen over time.

Check His Mistress Out

It’s also advantageous for you to know who his mistress is, so make it your business to find out. For details on how this can help you, see the article entitled What You Should Know About Your Husband’s Mistress and Why.

If you need to trace a phone number or an e-mail address to find out her name, use CheatingSpousePhoneSearch.com or CheatingSpouseEMailSearch.com or a similar reputable service. Once you have her name, go to CheatingSpouseBackgroundCheck.com and run a background check to find out as much as about her you can.

If she’s married, or has children, that complicates matters for your husband or boyfriend and makes it less likely that he’ll leave you for her – even if you do find one or more of the signs mentioned above.

If a discreet online background check reveals that she has a criminal background, a questionable past, a reputation for being a home wrecker or a gold digger, bringing this to you’re his attention may keep him from making a terrible mistake.

Take Action Before It’s Too Late

That’s why it’s important to spot the warning signs of infidelity while the affair is still in the early stages. See the article entitled 3 Things a Wife Stands to Lose by Being the Last to Know.

You’ll have a valuable window of opportunity to get your marriage or relationship back on track before the affair reaches the point of no return.

If your relationship can’t be saved, or if you’d rather not even try, knowing in advance that he might leave you gives you a chance to prepare yourself mentally and emotionally. If you’re married, it gives you time to put some legal and financial safeguards in place before he surprises you with divorce papers, or decides to simply walk out on you and move in with her.

For a list of practical steps you can take, request a copy of the free tip sheet “How Wives with Cheating Husbands Can Gain the Upper Hand” by e-mailing InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with “Upper Hand - b” in the subject line.

Copyright 2008-2009 Ruth Houston

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You Need to Check Out His Mistress - Here’s Why and How

Steve McNair’s tragic death at the hands of his mistress underscores the need for any woman who knows her husband or boyfriend is cheating to check his mistress out.

There’s no indication that Mechelle McNair knew her husband, Steve McNair, was having an affair. But if she had known, and had checked out his mistress and found out that Sahel Kazemi was mentally unstable, she may have been able to talk McNair into leaving this troubled young woman alone.

Instead, McNair, a former NFL star was shot dead in his sleep by his 20-year-old mistress, leaving 4 sons and his devoted wife or 12 years.

If you know your husband or boyfriend is cheating on you, this may be one of the most important things you’ll ever read.

It covers why you need to find out as much as possible about his mistress, the risks to you’re your children and your husband if you don’t, what you need to find out about her, and how to check her out.

There are certain things you need to know about this woman. There are several reasons why it’s to your advantage to check her out.

Why You Need to Check His Mistress Out

You need to know who and what kind of person your husband has is dealing with.

Your life, his life, your children’s lives and financial well-being may depend on the kind of information you find and how you use what you know.

Especially if he’s dealing with someone who has ulterior motives, or who is emotionally fragile or mentally unstable.

Exactly who is this woman?

Does she live in your neighborhood? In your city or town? In another city or state?

How old is she?
Young women in their late teens or early 20’s, like McNair’s mistress, Sahel Kazemi tend to be unpredictable.

Several years ago, Joey Buttafucco’s young mistress, Amy Fisher, went to Joey’s home and shot his wife in the head.

What will she do if your husband tries to leave her?
Will she go off the deep end and try to harm him, you, or your children?

Will she try to destroy your house, car, place of business or other personal property?

Is she mean-spirited? Hot-tempered? Vindictive?
If he leaves her, will she try to get back at him in some way?

Back in the 80’s Jean Harris went to her lover Herman Tarnower’s home, and shot and killed him.

And we see what happened this month with Sahel Kazemi and Steve McNair.

Does she have a history of violence?
Will she attempt to harm you, your husband, or your children if things don’t go her way?
Do you need get an order of protection?

Back in the 80’s Jean Harris went to her lover Herman Tarnower’s home, and shot and killed him.

Is she a stalker?
Will she harass you, your children, or other members of your family?

Does she have a reputation as a home wrecker? Or a history of dating married men?

What are her motives?

Is she out for just a fling, fun and games, a good time?

Is she a gold digger with a reputation for going after wealthy or prominent men for money, gifts, favors, and whatever else she can get?

Is she looking for a steady meal ticket? Will she attempt to get pregnant by your husband so she can collect child support?

Or is she in love with your husband, and is trying to get him to divorce you and marry her?

If she succeeds in getting your husband to move in with her, or to divorce you to marry her, you may be able to sue her for alienation of affections, depending on the state where you live.

Does she own a home, a business, a car, boat, or property of some kind.?
Does she have enough assets to make a lawsuit worth your while?

If it’s a workplace affair, will she try get your husband fired, or ruin his reputation by charging him with sexual harassment on the job?

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
How far would she go to even the score?
Would she accuse yoour husband of rape?

Is she promiscuous? Does she sleep around?
Do your and your husband need to be tested for HIV/AIDS?

As you can see from the tragic death of Steve McNair, it pays to know who your husband is dealing with.

(Besides, if he’s been seeing her for a while, you might be surprised to find out how much she knows about you.)

How to Check Her Out

To check his mistress out, you need to know her name so you can run a background check.
If you don’t know who she is, there's an easy way to find out.

Check your husband’s his cell phone or e-mail account, and write down any suspicious or unfamiliar phone numbers or e-mail addresses you find. Then use a reputable service like http://www.cheatingspousephonesearch.com/ or http://www.cheatingspouseemailsearch.com/ to do a reverse search to find out who the phone number and e-mail address belong to.

Once you have her name, you're ready to do an online background check.

It’s quick, easy, affordable, and can be done from the privacy of your own home. All you need is a computer with internet access. It’s s completely confidential.
Unless you tell, no one will know you checked her out.

For less than the price of a bag of groceries, reputable online services like http://www.cheatingspousebackgroundcheck.com/ will give you access to public records containing any or all of the following information:

Report includes address, birth date, maiden name, marriages, divorces, relatives, property ownership, personal assets, - business, house, boat, car, court records, personal assets, criminal records, known associates, roommates, neighbors and more. All you need is her name.

Regardless of whether you plan to stay with your cheating husband or leave him – or even if you’re not sure right now, you need to find out who his mistress is, and check her out.

A discreet background will help you find out what kind of person he’s dealing with, and whether or not you have cause for concern.

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How Wives with Cheating Husbands Can Gain the Upper Hand
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Go or Stay – How to Decide Whether to Give a Cheater a Second Chance
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