Saturday, December 31, 2016

How to Catch Your Cheating Mate on New Year's Eve


New Year’s Eve gives you a rare opportunity to catch your cheating mate - an opportunity you won’t find at any other time of the year. The cheater’s behavior on New Year’s Eve will usually give him (or her) away. Be observant and pay close attention to whatever the cheater says or does, and you’ll probably catch him or her in the act.

Their Secret Lover Could Be Someone You Know
According to an infidelity study a few years ago, 75% of people having affairs are cheating with workmates or friends.  So the likelihood is high that your spouse or significant other’s secret lover is probably someone you know.  It could be a neighbor, a mutual acquaintance, a co-worker or family friend. If it’s someone from your social circle, it’s possible the three of you could end up at the same New Year’s Eve party this year. If so, you’ve got a golden opportunity to check things out.

Body Language or Behavior Will Give Them Away
If there’s anything going on between your mate and someone else at the party, their body language and behavior will give them away. Keep your eyes and ears open for telltale signs.  It could be something as subtle as a look, touch, wink, caress, or calling each other a pet name.  Or it may be as brazen as kissing, making out, or sneaking off for a quickie, if they think the coast is clear.  If your spouse or significant other disappears for an extended period of time, discreetly try to find out where he or she has gone. 

Watch Them Closely on New Year’s Eve
Regardless of whether they're out partying, or celebrating an intimate New Year’s Eve at home, most cheaters can’t resist the urge to contact their secret lover around midnight to wish them a Happy New Year.  Watch him or her closely during this critical period of time, and you'll probably catch the cheater in the act.  Stay alert because cheaters can be quite resourceful in concocting excuses to get away.  Any unexplained absences, whispered conversations, or errands that must be run before or after midnight should be cause for alarm. Cheaters have used  all kinds of excuses to get away long enough to make a phone call, send a  text message, or make a quick visit if their lover lives nearby.

Proceed with Caution and Get Solid Proof
Even if your spouse or significant other behaves suspiciously on New Year’s Eve, you still may need additional proof. Don't confront him or her unless you have a solid case.  Otherwise, the cheater will lie, deny, or play mind games with you to explain away whatever he or she said or did. 

Bear in mind that signs of infidelity seldom appear in isolation.  If he or she is really cheating on you, there will be lots of corroborating signs.  Since many of them are subtle, knowing what to look for is the key.

This is where a good infidelity reference book can help. You might want to check out Is He Cheating on You? 829 Telltale Signs.  Talk show hosts have called this book “cheater’s worst nightmare” because it documents practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook. Despite the title, most of the signs in the book apply to both cheating women and men. To order your personal copy of the soft cover version of  Is He Cheating on You? 829 Telltale Signs from Amazon.com ($29.95), clickhere.  To order the e-book version with the special bonus section and “Affair Recovery Guide” from Booklocker.com ($37), click here.

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6 After-Christmas Signs of Infidelity That Can Expose a Cheating Mate


The 6 signs of infidelity below typically appear shortly after Christmas, and can expose a cheating mate or confirm the existence of a suspected affair.

Knowing what to look for is the keyThe cheater will usually be exposed by a Christmas gift he or she has given or received. Be alert for one or more of the 6 “after-Christmas” infidelity signs below:

1.  The disappearing gift.  You accidentally discover a hidden gift before Christmas that you thought was for you.  However Christmas has come and gone, the gift has disappeared from its hiding place, but it wasn’t given to you.  Where is the gift now? If no one else in the family received it, who was it given to? 

NOTE:  To read a brief account of how one wife found out her husband's infidelity because of a disappearing Christmas gift, see Cheating Husband Exposed by Christmas Gift to Wife’s Best Friend at www.RealLifeInfidelity.com   

2.  Receipts for the purchase of two identical gifts. You find a receipt or credit card  bill indicating that two of the exact same gifts were bought.  You received one, but who did your mate give the other gift to?
3.  A thank you note, e-mail, text message or voice mail to your mate from someone of the opposite sex for a Christmas gift you know nothing about. If it was just an innocent gift, your spouse or significant other would have mentioned that he or she bought it, or even asked you to help them pick it out. The fact that it was done behind your back suggests that it was something you weren’t supposed to know about. Ask yourself (and your mate) Why?
4.  Gifts of an overly personal nature given to your spouse or significant other by a business acquaintance or casual friend of the opposite sex. Things like scarves or ties are neutral Christmas gifts. But Christmas gifts like jewelry, lingerie, articles of clothing, or similar personal items from members of the opposite sex should raise an alarm.

5.  Expensive gift items that suddenly appear after Christmas, which your mate claims to have bought for himself/herself. Ask your mate a few questions the suspicious newly acquired gift.  When did they buy it? Why haven’t they mentioned it, or worn it before now? Can he or he show you the sales receipt for the suspicious gift?

6.  Credit card statements that arrive after Christmas showing charges for gift items you know nothing about and didn’t personally receive. If you weren’t the one who charged a watch from Sak’s Fifth Avenue, or $300 worth of Victoria’s Secret lingerie to your joint credit card,  who did? And if you weren’t the person who received the gift that was charged, who was it given to?

A Word of Caution about Telltale Signs of Infidelity

These are just a few of the signs of infidelity an observant spouse or significant other can find shortly after Christmastime.  But you should never accuse your mate of cheating solely on the basis of one of the 6 signs above.  Signs of infidelity rarely appear in isolation.  If your spouse or significant other is really cheating, you’ll find dozens of other corroborating signs. Since most of the signs are subtle and easy to overlook, knowing what to look for is the key. So be sure you’re on solid ground before you confront your mate. Things are not always what they appear to be.


NOTE: The 6 “after-Christmas” telltale signs above are taken from the 3 chapters on Gifts, Financial Affairs, and Physical Evidence 

If You Need Additional Proof

If you need additional proof that your spouse or significant other is cheating, you might want to order a reliable infidelity reference book like  Is He Cheating on You? 829 Telltale Signs. It covers practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook. Despite the title, most of the signs in the book apply to both cheating women and cheating men. To order the soft cover version of Is He Cheating on You? 829 Telltale Signs. from Amazon.com ($29.95),click here.  To order the e-book version with the bonus section and “Affair Recovery Guide” from Booklocker.com ($37),click here

More Infidelity Information for You
To receive monthly infidelity-related information including tips, little-known facts, and practical advice from infidelity expert Ruth Houston, on dealing with all aspects of infidelity, send an e-mail to InfidelityAtoZ@gmail.com  .