Friday, April 17, 2009

Emotional Infidelity Can Lead to Sexual Infidelity

Is your spouse or significant other a little too chummy with someone of the opposite sex? --- perhaps a workmate, a neighbor, an old schoolmate, or an online friend? DO NOT TREAT THIS LIGHTLY. Close friendships of this type can easily progress to emotional infidelity, which can often lead to sexual infidelity, even if that was not the original intent. It could be the beginning of the end for your marriage or relationship.

The Danger of Opposite Sex Friendships

Far too many people underestimate the danger of close friendships with members of the opposite sex, because they start out innocently enough. In the early stages, there is no sex involved. Very often, the person involved in this type of friendship does not realize how much of a threat it can be to his or her marriage or relationship. If you complain about it, your partner may simply ignore you, or brush off your concerns as jealousy or paranoia.

How Emotional Infidelity Becomes Sexual Infidelity

However, if your spouse or significant other becomes emotionally dependant on this opposite sex friend, and starts sharing hopes, dreams, special moments and intimate information with them, instead of you, a strong emotional bond will develop. It the situation is not put into check, this bond will progress to emotional infidelity, which will eventually lead to sexual infidelity. Your marriage or relationship may be at stake.

Emotional Infidelity in Real Life – Brad, Jen and Angelina

A prime example of emotional infideity is what happened between Brad Pitt, Jennifer Aniston, and Angelina Jolie. Brad and Angelina met and became close friends while filming the movie Mr. and Mrs. Smith. Jennifer Anniston knew of their developing friendship but did not take it seriously. The end result: the friendship between Brad and Angelina grew into a strong emotional bond which developed into an emotional affair. (They both claimed that they were not sexually involved at the time) The emotional infidelity that developed between them, progressed to sexual infidelity which undermined Brad and Jen’s marriage and ultimately led to their divorce. Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie have been a couple since that time, and have biological and adopted children together.

The lesson here is clear: If you value your marriage or relationship,

Is Your Marriage or Relationship in Danger?

Is your spouse or significant other involved in a close friendship with a member of the opposite sex that is in danger of becoming emotional infidelity? Do you have a very close friendship with someone of the opposite sex that may be bordering on emotional infidelity? The quiz below will help you evaluate the situation.

FREE Emotional Infidelity Quiz

To evaluate your situation, request your FREE copy of the Emotional Infidelity Quiz which comes with a free tip sheet on 13 Ways to Keep Opposite Sex Friendships from Becoming Emotional Infidelity E-mail with “emotional infidelity quiz and tip sheet - b” in the subject line.

Recognizing the Signs of Emotional Infidelity

For help in spotting the subtle signs of emotional infidelity, you might want to invest in a copy of
Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs. This book covers practically every known sign of infidelity including the subtle signs people usually overlook, and can expose all types of infidelity – emotional infidelity, workplace infidelity, online or internet infidelity, sexual infidelity and more. Most signs apply to both cheating women and cheating men. Is He Cheating on You? is also available as an e-book for customers who live outside the United States. For more information about Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs, click here or visit

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Thursday, April 02, 2009

Joint Tax Returns Can Reveal Both Financial and Marital Infidelity

Financial infidelity and marital infidelity often go hand-in-hand. A cheating spouse usually ends up spending or receiving money somewhere along the line. So finding telltale signs of one type of infidelity will usually alert you to the existence of the other.

If you suspect your spouse of infidelity – either financial or sexual -- and the two of you file a joint income tax return, there could be hidden clues on your 1040 Form. Most financial infidelity is generally exposed during the tax season when couples file their joint income tax returns. But knowing what to look for is the key. There are specific places on your 1040 Form where you can find the telltale signs.

Salary Discrepancies Expose An Affair

For example, line 7 on your 1040 Form will alert you to any salary discrepancies. Wages, salaries, and tips are recorded here. Compare the figure on this line with your spouse’s attached W-2 Form.

Overtime is an excuse that cheating spouses commonly use to account for the time they spend on their extramarital affairs. Does line 7 reflect the amount of overtime your spouse claims to have worked last year? Or is this figure a lot less than you expect?

Tammy and Max

Max worked lots of overtime last year, often pulling a double shift. But Tammy noticed his salary was almost the same as he made the year before. She later found out the “overtime story” was a just cover for the affair Max was having with a woman on his job.

Chad and Angela

Chad was surprised to find that Angela’s salary was considerably lower than he thought it would be. Especially since she was always new designer clothing and jewelry, going to day spas to be pampered, and taking expensive vacations 2 or 3 times a year. There was no way the salary shown on Angela’s W-2 form could possibly cover all these things. Checking deeper into the matter, Chad discovered that Angela had a wealthy lover who was supplementing her income and showering her with expensive gifts.

Elaine and Dan

Did your spouse make a lot more money than he or she led you to believe? This could reflect a raise or bonus they didn’t tell you about. What did they do with the extra money? On what – or on whom was it spent? Elaine found that her husband Dan used his year-end bonus to buy his mistress a diamond ring.

Other Information Your 1040 Form Can Reveal

In addition to salary discrepancies, your 1040 Form can reveal all kinds of other incriminating financial information -- transactions made without your knowledge or consent, hidden sources of income, secret bank accounts, property or other assets you didn’t know your spouse had, and more.

Has your spouse been liquidating assets behind your back in preparation for a divorce? Is he paying alimony to an ex-wife you didn’t even know he had? Is his business really doing as poorly as he led you to believe? Or is it showing a healthy profit?

Form 1040 also has attachments, called "schedules" which depending on the taxpayer’s financial circumstances, may also need to be filed. A close examination of Schedules A, B, C, D, or E can be equally revealing and provide other valuable clues.

FREE Tip Sheet on What to Look for on Your 1040 Form

This is just a sample of the kind financial information you can find on your joint income tax form. A line-by-line review of your 1040 Form will reveal other clues about your spouse’s financial affairs. Knowing what to look for is the key. To find out where to look and what to look for on your 1040 Form, request a FREE copy of the tip sheet entitled “The Telltale 1040 Form.” Send an e-mail to with “telltale 1040 – b” in the subject line.

Other Signs of Financial Infidelity

Let me remind you again that financial infidelity and sexual or marital infidelity go hand in hand. No matter what kind of infidelity your spouse is involved in – financial or sexual -- the telltale signs never appear in isolation. Where there’s one sign, there are usually other signs just waiting to be found. Again, knowing what to look for is the key. Not every sign of financial infidelity is tax-related. Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs has a chapter on Financial Affairs that lists 52 financially-related signs of infidelity. Click here for more information.

For a FREE tip sheet with 9 signs of financial infidelity taken from this chapter, e-mail with "9 financial signs - b" in the subject line.

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