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Is He Cheating on You exposes all types of infidelity, including emotional infidelity, cyber, online or internet infidelity, workplace infidelity, same sex infidelity, financial infidelity and more.
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How to Catch a Cheating Mate
Many people mistakenly believe they need to hire a private investigator or buy expensive surveillance equipment to catch a cheating spouse or significant other. If you’re familiar with the signs of infidelity, all you really need are your own eyes and ears and your personal knowledge of your mate. Knowing what to look for is the key.
Stay Alert
If you suspect your mate of infidelity, you’ll need to be very observant. Pay close attention to everything he or she says or does from now on. Short of a confession – which is unlikely, or an accidental discovery, this is the only way you will find out the truth. The majority of telltale signs are subtle, but once you know what to look for, most of them are easy to spot.
NOTE: Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs covers practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook. Most of the signs in the book are universal, and apply to cheating woman and cheating men.
During this information-gathering period, don’t let a single day pass without searching for signs of infidelity. The signs that are evident one day may be undetectable the next. Be alert to for anything unusual, or any departures from your partner’s norm.
Write Down Everything You Find
Document everything! Keep accurate records of whatever you find -- names, dates, times, locations, suspicious incidents, phone calls, absences, meetings, excuses or alibis given, etc. Don’t rely on your memory. Record your findings in a journal and keep it safely under lock and key. Once you have everything down on paper, you can analyze what you’ve found for patterns of behavior.
Does he go to the store for a beer at 8:30 every Thursday night? Does he walk the dog for an extra hour on the first and third Sunday of each month? Does she put on cologne to go work out at the gym? Does she wear sexy lingerie only on days she calls home to say she has to work late? Patterns like these will only be evident if you document everything you find.
Exercise Caution and Be Discreet
Make photocopies or take photos of phone numbers, e-mails, letters, receipts and any other incriminating evidence you find. Then put things back exactly as they were. Keep your “evidence journal” in a safe place. You’ll need the proof you’ve found when you sit down and inform your mate that you know about the affair.
Be discreet while conducting your investigation. Keep your eyes and ears open, and your mouth shut. Be careful not to tip your hand. If your spouse or significant other figures out what you’re up to, they’ll start hiding evidence, or covering up their tracks.
Don’t Ask, Because He Won’t Tell
You may be tempted to question your mate about some of the evidence you’ve found. My advice to you is - DON’T. Now is not the time. Say nothing until you have all the facts at hand. Above all, DO NOT ASK IF HE OR SHE IS CHEATING. They will only tell you a lie. It usually takes solid evidence to get a cheating mate to confess to having an affair. Even then, many cheaters, still continue to lie.
Restrain Yourself
It will be difficult to restrain yourself as you document your findings and the evidence begins to mount. You’ll be tempted to drop a few hints, just to let your mate know that you’re not a fool. Keep your lips zipped until you have all the facts. There’s nothing to be gained by dropping hints or letting your mate know what you suspect. Don’t lose the advantage you have by revealing your knowledge too soon.
Build a Strong Case for the Confrontation
Once you have solid evidence that your mate is cheating on you, confront him or her with the evidence you’ve gathered and tell them you know about the affair. If your evidence is solid, and your case is strong, he or she can’t deny the truth. Especially if you’ve got everything down in black and white. That’s why it’s important for you to keep accurate notes.
Calmly discuss the affair with your mate. Ask all your unanswered questions at this time. Listen to what he or she has to say. Then use this information to help you formulate an appropriate plan of action to take.
A WORD OF CAUTION: Do not jeopardize your safety to search for telltale signs. If your mate is hot-tempered, aggressive, or has a history of violent behavior, leave the detective work to a pro. And have a trained professional, or other third party present when you confront you mate about the affair. Do not put yourself or your children at risk.
This information on how to catch a cheating mate is adapted from Chapter 4 of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs. This infidelity reference book documents practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook. Most of the signs apply to cheating women, as well as cheating men.
For your convenience, the signs of infidelity in "Is He Cheating on You?" are grouped into 21 major categories so you can easily find the signs that apply to your marriage or your mate.
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